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How to Get the Love You Want

Many women long for a romantic connection. The desire to love and be loved can lead some to rush into relationships or compromise their wants and settle for a Mr. Right-Now instead of the sought-after Mr. Right. If you are on a relentless quest for a quality relationship but keep coming up dry, consider some ways in which you could increase the effectiveness of your hunt and more quickly produce the love that you desire. Trust us- a good relationship is worth the wait...

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   Stop and Think

   Think critically about who you are and what you want. You can't find the love you want if you don't know what you want. Try to step back from yourself and take an honest look at who you are and what makes you tick to ensure that your next relationship isn't just a lustful attraction but instead a meeting of the minds.
   
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   Try New Methods

   Try new romance-seeking methods. Some women resist trying different options. Don't just rely on bars or hope to meet someone passively. Instead, actively seek love by exploring Internet dating, allowing friends to set you up, or even giving singles mixers or speed dating a go. You never know what you might find.
   
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   Take a Closer Look

   Explore previously platonic relationships. While you think that one of your best guy buds is nothing more than a friend, you may find that some love could bloom if given the option. "The Huffington Post" reports that women finding love with men who are just friends is highly common, particularly in a digital world full of Facebook friending and tweeting. Don't force love where there isn't any romantic inkling, but at the same time, don't refuse to let love develop where the opportunity exists.
   
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   Don't Hang On

   End relationships that are unproductive promptly. Some women hang on to relationships that they know are wanting simply because they don't want the stigma of being single. In truth, being single is better than stagnating in a stinker of a relationship. Once you decide you are through with a guy, don't string him along and hope the relationship gets better. Instead, pull the plug and seek a new romantic conquest.
   
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   No Obsessing!

   Get positive about your life. Obsessing about your love life--or your lack of a love life--is not productive, reports CNN. Instead of spending your every waking hour bemoaning the fact that you are still single, think positive thoughts and push negativity out of your head. Positive thoughts lead to happiness and happiness may just lead you to find the love of your life.
   
   
   By Erin Schreiner on Aug 10, 2010

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Don't Let Money Problems Ruin Your Marriage

There’s no right way for married couples to manage their money. But there are plenty of wrong ways. “Financial issues are the primary reason for 90 percent of divorce cases I handle,” says John Thyden, a prominent Washington, D.C., divorce attorney. “But it isn’t necessarily the amount of money a couple has that tends to trip them up. It’s the differences in their spending habits and especially their lack of communication.” Here are some issues to watch out for. And while you're at it, try adopting these habits of the happiest couples.

 

1. Relationship Neglect

Pssst...sometimes arguments about money are actually about not paying enough attention to your marriage (do this to stop having the same fight), rather than your financial situation. When spouses feel neglected, they may resort to spending cash on items they can't afford or bring up their partner's buying habits as a way to retaliate for deeper issues. Examine the root of your fights and determine whether your fiscal concerns are actually a by-product of hurt feelings. Then, if necessary, get started on a marriage makeover.

 

2. Love Is Blind

At the beginning of a relationship, money often isn't an issue. Love can be intoxicating, and some spouses express their emotions by lavishing their partner with exorbitant spending sprees, jetting off to exotic vacations, and other costly pursuits (don't make these money mistakes). Then reality sets in, and couples have to worry about their rent or mortgage, kids and living expenses. A financial planner can help you get your finances back on track and develop a budget that you can stick to. Plus, set out some financial rules to follow as a couple.

3. When Women Are the Breadwinners

Women are the breadwinners in one out of three dual-income families today. Although earning more money can be beneficial, it also challenges traditional gender roles, so that wives may feel guilty about putting less time into mom duties while husbands may feel like they've failed somehow. Set up equal spending rights with your spouse so that you're both on the same page.

4. Keeping Up with the Joneses

It can be easy for couples to become envious of other couples' spending habits and feel like they need to live beyond their means just to keep up. However, this can lead to debt and put a significant amount of stress on a marriage. Do some digging with your spouse and work together to diminish these insecurities.

5. A Lack of Open Communication
Not knowing exactly where your money is going each month can spark resentment. Have an honest conversation with your partner where you both break down the spending in your household. Discuss your priorities and decide together if you need to cut back or add to a specific category.

by Good Housekeeping, on Thu Jul 29, 2010 12:07pm